As with all relationships, communication is key. I'm a Puerto Rican/Italian and therefore, stereotypically speaking, come from a loud and expressive family. I once heard an Italian saying, "It's not how often you and your spouse fight thats important, it's how well you can work things out afterwrds that counts." I truly believe this.
Too often, the common misconception is that couples and friends should have similar ideas and not disagree with one another. The truth is that you probably won't agree on everything with anyone. Having disagreements are normal and shouldn't create anxiety. Working through disagreements and learning to respect ones opinions and feelings as well as compromising is part of every healthy relationship. At the Tae Kwon Do school I teach at, we tell the students as a rule to be mutually understanding and respectful to others at all times.
Very good point. I have a great relationship with my fiancée, and I believe that the key to that is our excellent communication with each other. He is truly my best friend, and we talk about everything. But he's a rare find.....a man that likes to talk! :-D
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